Relationships--conflict as the secret gift of the universe....

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Someone recently commented on my long marriage and asked me about our success...they also asked how to see clearly relationship issues full of conflict and how to avoid them…I looked at them in a puzzled way, because i had never wanted to AVOID anything in my relationship with my Poppi--what ever had to happen, had to happen in order to build this wonderful friendship that has given us both so much LOVE and JOY and GROWTH....so, here was my answer...

one thing that always helps ME whenever i experience relationship contrast is to look at it from the non-physical perspective of everything really is perfect...

and the person "doing me wrong" is really part of my own shared inner being that LOVES me so much it is giving me the contrast, situation or event i desired to experience in order to shoot off rockets of desire for change...

and i will say, that looking back over a 25 year relationship with my husband, it has been a roller coaster--and i realize that there was indeed a pattern of internal contrast--expansion=--plateau--external contrast--pulling together into a deeper tighter relationship--resolution--gratitude--plateau--internal contrast...expansion...

etc. etc....and so on and so on--always evolving...as two mountain climbers inch their way up the frozen mountain face...sometimes pushing, sometimes pulling, sometimes climbing, sometimes scrambling for a foot or hand hold...but always exhilarated, and moving steadily upwards to the summit--into the light...to find the success of overcoming--only to climb back down and start again some other day....there IS no end...it is always evolving...and it never gets done...even at the end of this life...there is more--and generally, you can bet that if you have a deep relationship with someone that brings you great JOY and great consternation--you will be spending more lifetimes with that soulmate...cause its DELICIOUS and exciting and productive...

i am NOT saying that sometimes, to love yourself or because you are vibrating differently that leaving a relationship is not the right thing to do--i am just trying to put into perspective that contrast in a relationship is a gift--

the minute my marriage stops giving me contrast is the minute we stop growing--and the relationship ceases to have meaning....it loses its reason for being...

with the pain, comes the joy--and i am thankful for it all--

and i am loving to see how all of you who have suffered previously are REALLY getting into alignment, and shooting off desires for what you REALLY want--because contrast helps you FOCUS more keenly on what you really truly want in a relationship, in a soul mate, in anything....and what you want can come in the form of who you are already with, or it can come in the form of someone else...its all about focusing on the essence of what you want--through the gift of contrast that other souls lovingly bestow on you...

This knowing...this viewing contrast as a gift can be so freeing! Its also wonderful to understand--to really get to the meat of the idea that EVERY piece of contrast that you encounter is there because YOU desired it--from the non-physical perspective--YOU choose to expand! and you requested the expansion and other soulmates lined up and offered to give you the contrast you chose! So, you will feel such a huge sense of relief to know that what is coming was lovingly planned--and you will go through it much more smoothly becuase you will be ALLOWING and reaching for the honed desire and putting that out to the universe and knowing beyond all doubt that what you desire shall be yours--in life, in love, in health, in abundance...in all aspects of your wonderful existence...

how wicked rockin is that????